Throughout my life, I found that whenever I defended myself against defamatory comments, loss and regret were the main results. At first I would think it wise that I should set things straight when some person criticized me, regardless of whether the criticism was verbal or written. In the end, however, I found the opposite to be true. By defending myself, more enmity resulted, and instead of the restoration of good ties between my critic and me, he would attempt to malign me even further. Eventually I would wish that I had never confronted him in the first place. It would have been better to forgive, forbear, show patience, turn away, and ignore the defamatory remarks. After all, this is what the Qur’an teaches us: Read more ›
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In previous chapters, I quoted revealed texts to illustrate the importance of being gentle; here we expand on the same theme by mentioning some examples. Imagine yourself driving a car on an extremely narrow road that is enclosed on either side by a wall. There is no way for a car to pass except with a great deal of care, gentleness, and caution. However, if a driver attempted to go through this street at a high speed, he would constantly crash into the wall on the right, and then into the one on the left, eventually causing his car to break down. In both of these instances ___________that of driving carefully and that of driving recklessly at a high speed – the street is the same and the car is the same, but the way of driving is different. Read more ›
Dissatisfaction opens the door that leads to doubt in Allah: in His Decree, in His Wisdom, and in His Knowledge. Rarely is the complainer free from these accompanying doubts that mix within his heart and permeate his being. If he were to delve deep into his self with honest introspection, he would find his faith to be infirm and questionable. Contentment and faith are like brothers that accompany one another; meanwhile, doubt and discontentment have a similar fraternal relationship. Tirmidhi related that the Prophet (bpuh) said: Read more ›
“My soul that owns things is itself departing, Then why should I cry when something leaves me.”
The whole world, with all its gold, silver, positions, and mansions does not deserve even a teardrop. In a hadith related by Tirmidhi, the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said:
“The world is cursed, and what is in it is cursed, except the remembrance of Allah, that which follows it (i.e. other good deeds that Allah loves), the scholar, and the student.” Read more ›
The author of Ease after Difficuhy mentioned the story of a wise person who was afflicted by calamity. His brothers went to him and tried to console him over his loss. He answered, `I have put together a remedy that is composed of six ingredients.’ They asked him what those ingredients were, and he answered, Read more ›
If you toss and turn during the night without being able to fall asleep, do the following:
1. Remember Allah with Prophetic supplications or supplications taken from the Qur’an:
Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest. (Qur’an 13: 28)
2. Avoid sleeping during the day, except when you have no other choice:
And have made the day for livelihood. (Qur’an 78: 11)
3. Read or write until sleep comes:
And say: My Lord! Increase me in knowledge. ‘(Qur’an 20: 114)
4. Work hard during the day:
And [it is He no] makes the day Nushur [i.e. getting up and going about here and there for daily work, etc., after one’s sleep at night or like resurrection after one’s death]. (Qur’an 25: 47)
5. Consume stimulants such as coffee and tea in moderation.
First Jummah – 12.15 – 12.45pm
Second Jummah – 1.15 – 1.45pm
Ibn `Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) said:
“If Allah removes the light from my eyes,
My tongue and ears still have in them light.
My heart is intelligent and my mind is not crooked, and my tongue is sharp like a warrior’s sword.”
When harm befalls you, perhaps there is a benefit that comes with it, a benefit that you cannot perceive.
And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you… (Qur’an 2: 216)
Bashhar ibn Burd said:
“My enemies disparage me, and the defect is in them, it is not a disgrace to be called defective.
If a person can see gallantry and truth,
Blindness in the eyes will not be a hindrance.
In blindness I see rewards, savings, and protection,
And for these three, I am most needy.”
Observe the difference between what Ibn `Abbaas or Bashhar said and what Saaleh ibn `Abdul Quddoos said when he became blind:
“Farewell to the world; the old man who is blind has no share whatsoever of this life.
He dies and people consider him to be of the living, False hopes have betrayed him from the beginning.”
All Divine decrees will come to pass, both upon the one who accepts them and upon the one who rejects them. The difference is that the former will find reward and happiness while the latter will find only sin and misery.
`Umar ibn `Abdul-`Aziz wrote to Maymoon ibn Mehran:
“You have written to console me for losing `Abdul-Malik. For this matter I had been in waiting, and when it finally came to pass, I had no misgivings about it.”
1. Know that if you do not live within the scope of today, your thoughts will be scattered, your affairs will become confused, and your worrying will increase these realities explain the hadith:
“When you are in the morning, do not expect to see the evening, and when you are in the evening, do not expect to see the morning.”
2. Forget the past and all that it contained. Being absorbed in things that are gone is sheer lunacy.
3. Do not be preoccupied with the future. Because the future is in the world of the unseen, do not let it bother you until it comes.
4. Do not be shaken by criticism; instead, be firm. And know that, in proportion to your worth, the level of people’s criticism rises.
5. Faith in Allah and good deeds: these are the ingredients that make up a good and happy life.
6. Whoever desires peace, tranquility, and comfort can find it all in the remembrance of Allah.
7. You should know with certainty that everything that happens, occurs in accordance with a divine decree.
8. Do not expect gratitude from anyone.
9. Train yourself to be ready and prepared for the worst eventuality.
10. Perhaps what has happened is in your best interest (though you may not comprehend how that is so).
11. Everything that is decreed for the Muslim is best for him.
12. Enumerate the blessings of Allah and be thankful for them.
13. You are better off than many others.
14. Relief comes from one hour to the next.
15. In both times of hardship and ease, one should turn to supplication and prayer.
16. Calamities should strengthen your heart and reshape your outlook in a positive sense.
17. Indeed, with each difficulty there is relief.
18. Do not let trifles be the cause of your destruction.
19. Indeed, your Lord is Of-Forgiving.
20. Do not be angry… Do not be angry… Do not be angry.
21. Life is bread, water, and shade; so do not be perturbed by a lack of any other material thing.
And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised. (Qur’an 51: 22)
22. Most evil that is supposed to happen never occurs.
23. Look at those who are afflicted and be thankful.
24. When Allah loves a people, He makes them endure trials.
25. You should constantly repeat those supplications that the Prophet (bpuh) taught us to say during times of hardship.
26. Work hard at something that is productive, and cast off idleness.
27. Don’t spread rumors and don’t listen to them. If you hear a rumor inadvertently, then don’t believe it.
28. Your malice and your striving to seek revenge are much more harmful to your health than they are to your antagonist.
29. The hardships that befall you atone for your sins.
Verily, the One Who provides sustenance is Allah. He has made it binding upon Himself that whatever provision He has written for His slaves will reach them.
And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised. (Qur’an 51: 22)
If Allah is the One Who provides for the creation, why curry favor with people? And why should one degrade himself in front of another person in the hope of procuring from him his sustenance? Allah said:
And no [moving] living creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allah. (Qur ‘an 11: 6)
Whatever of mercy i.e. e. of good], Allah may grant to mankind, none can withhold it, and whatever He may withhold, none can grant it thereafter: (Qur’an 35: 2)
Do not be sad, for there are means of making it easier to bear calamity. Among them are the following:
1. Expecting reward and recompense from Allah, the Exalted: only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning.? (Qur’an 39: 1O)
2. Visiting those who are afflicted and seeking comfort in that you are better off than many others.
A poet said:
“If not for the many mourners around me,
Who weep for their brothers, I would have taken my own life.”
So look at those who surround you. There will not be one, except that hardship or affliction has touched him.