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Do not be sad – The fundamentals of happiness

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1. Know that if you do not live within the scope of today, your thoughts will be scattered, your affairs will become confused, and your worrying will increase these realities explain the hadith:

“When you are in the morning, do not expect to see the evening, and when you are in the evening, do not expect to see the morning.”

2. Forget the past and all that it contained. Being absorbed in things that are gone is sheer lunacy.

3. Do not be preoccupied with the future. Because the future is in the world of the unseen, do not let it bother you until it comes.

4. Do not be shaken by criticism; instead, be firm. And know that, in proportion to your worth, the level of people’s criticism rises.

5. Faith in Allah and good deeds: these are the ingredients that make up a good and happy life.

6. Whoever desires peace, tranquility, and comfort can find it all in the remembrance of Allah.

7. You should know with certainty that everything that happens, occurs in accordance with a divine decree.

8. Do not expect gratitude from anyone.

9. Train yourself to be ready and prepared for the worst eventuality.

10. Perhaps what has happened is in your best interest (though you may not comprehend how that is so).

11. Everything that is decreed for the Muslim is best for him.

12. Enumerate the blessings of Allah and be thankful for them.

13. You are better off than many others.

14. Relief comes from one hour to the next.

15. In both times of hardship and ease, one should turn to supplication and prayer.

16. Calamities should strengthen your heart and reshape your outlook in a positive sense.

17. Indeed, with each difficulty there is relief.

18. Do not let trifles be the cause of your destruction.

19. Indeed, your Lord is Of-Forgiving.

20. Do not be angry… Do not be angry… Do not be angry.

21. Life is bread, water, and shade; so do not be perturbed by a lack of any other material   thing.

And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised. (Qur’an 51: 22)

22. Most evil that is supposed to happen never occurs.

23. Look at those who are afflicted and be thankful.

24. When Allah loves a people, He makes them endure trials.

25. You should constantly repeat those supplications that the Prophet (bpuh) taught us to say during times of hardship.

26. Work hard at something that is productive, and cast off idleness.

27. Don’t spread rumors and don’t listen to them. If you hear a rumor inadvertently, then don’t believe it.

28. Your malice and your striving to seek revenge are much more harmful to your health than they are to your antagonist.

29. The hardships that befall you atone for your sins.

Do not be sad from the want of ample provision

Verily, the One Who provides sustenance is Allah. He has made it binding upon Himself that whatever provision He has written for His slaves will reach them.

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And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised. (Qur’an 51: 22)

If Allah is the One Who provides for the creation, why curry favor with people? And why should one degrade himself in front of another person in the hope of procuring from him his sustenance? Allah said:

And no [moving] living creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allah. (Qur ‘an 11: 6)

Whatever of mercy i.e. e. of good], Allah may grant to mankind, none can withhold it, and whatever He may withhold, none can grant it thereafter:  (Qur’an 35: 2)

Do not be sad, for there are means of making it easier to bear calamity. Among them are the following:

1. Expecting reward and recompense from Allah, the Exalted: only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning.?  (Qur’an 39: 1O)

2. Visiting those who are afflicted and seeking comfort in that you are better off than many others.

A poet said:

“If not for the many mourners around me,
Who weep for their brothers, I would have taken my own life.”

So look at those who surround you. There will not be one, except that hardship or affliction has touched him.

Signposts on the seeker’s highway

If one wants to know whether one is climbing upwards toward success, there are certain signs and indications that can help him to determine his progress.

1. As one becomes more knowledgeable, one becomes more humble and merciful to others. Think of an expensive pearl: the more heavy and valuable it is, the deeper it is in the ocean. A wise person knows that though knowledge is a gift, Allah tests the one whom He gives it to. When one is thankful for the gift of knowledge, one will be raised in ranking.

Allah will exalt in degree those of you who believe and those who have been granted knowledge. (Qur’an 58: 11)

2. The more one performs good deeds; the more one becomes cautious and fearful, in the sense that he does not feel secure from error, such as a slip of the tongue or a change of heart. He is always in a state of watching over himself and of being wary. He is like a careful bird: each time it lands on a tree, it soon leaves it for another, afraid of the skilled hunter and his bullet.

3. The older one gets the less covetous should one be for this world, for he comes to know with certainty that his time is soon finished.

4. The wealthier one becomes the more generous should one be towards others. The wealthy Muslim must understand that his wealth is a trust given to him, and that Allah is testing him in that wealth.

5. The higher one’s status becomes in society, the closer should he be to ordinary people, showing humility and fulfilling their needs.

But there are also signs that indicate wretchedness:

1. The more knowledge one attains the haughtier and arrogant he becomes. Such a person’s knowledge is not beneficial. His heart is empty and his company is heavy to bear.

2. The more he increases in deeds, the more proud he becomes and the more contemptuous he becomes of others. He doesn’t give the benefit of the doubt to anyone except to his own self. Thus, he deems that he is the only one who achieves salvation while all others are bound for destruction.

3. The older he gets, the more avarice and cupidity become part of his character. He gathers, but he never shares. Calamities and misfortune fail to move him into becoming a benefactor to others.

4. The wealthier he becomes, the more miserly he becomes with his money.

5.  The higher his position in society, the higher his level of arrogance and haughtiness. The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said:

“The arrogant ones will be gathered on the Day of Judgment in the form of small ants. People will trample on them with their feet.”

In each of the points discussed above, I mentioned some of Allah’s favors, favors by which He tests His slaves: some of those slaves will pass the test while others will fail it.